Question 1

Can I personalize my Jewish wedding ceremony?

Accepted Answer

With a private rabbi, you can personalize vows, add readings, choose meaningful songs, and adjust the ceremony length and style. Even within traditional frameworks, there’s room for personal touches that reflect your relationship.

Question 2

Do I need witnesses for my Jewish wedding?

Accepted Answer

Yes, two kosher witnesses (shomer Shabbat Jewish males, not related to the couple) are required for the ketubah signing and the ceremony. Your rabbi can help arrange witnesses if needed.

Question 3

How do I handle a wedding between partners of different backgrounds?

Accepted Answer

If both are Jewish, a rabbi can incorporate both Ashkenazi and Sephardi traditions. For interfaith situations, Israeli law requires both to be Jewish for a Rabbinate wedding. Discuss options with a rabbi experienced in diverse families.

Question 4

How do I choose a rabbi for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah?

Accepted Answer

If your child attends a synagogue, the community rabbi usually officiates. For private celebrations, find a rabbi who connects well with teens, makes the experience meaningful, and accommodates your family’s level of observance.

Question 5

Can I write my own vows for a Jewish wedding?

Accepted Answer

Traditional Jewish weddings use prescribed blessings, but many rabbis (especially non-Orthodox) welcome personal vows as an addition. Discuss with your rabbi—personal words can be shared before or after the traditional elements.